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Out October: Suicide Is A Permanent Solution To A Temporary Problem

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Today’s Out October Project story comes from Michelle, whose family had all but given up on her. In the midst of risking losing one family she gained another one.

We met in January of 1991 while we were both in middle school. I (Michelle) was a tough tom-boy type and would try to throw Lorrie in the trash can, threw bugs on her (because she would scream, and I found it humorous.) I now realize I was like a little boy trying to flirt with her. We went on and I outgrew my taunting of her. She always had a boyfriend and we usually had mutual friends. After high school we lost contact for about two years.

We were reunited in our “Old Testament” class in college. Lorrie had gotten married and had an eighteen-month old little girl with one on the way. She said when she saw me sitting in class she almost peed her pants thinking I would beat her up and make her do my homework.

We became best friends and then when her third daughter was on the way I realized there was more to the story. In November of 2001 we talked about how we felt about each other. She was married and five months pregnant at the time. I moved in with her, her husband, and two kids the next day. Yes, I know this fits the typical lesbian with a u-haul persona to a “T.”

In January of 2003 her husband moved out and I had been living there off and on. At that point I officially moved in and my mom found out shortly after. I had been a Religion major and was a licensed youth minister prior to the relationship. My mom wouldn’t even talk to me. During the time that we were not talking she told me that she prayed that I would die because it would be easier for me to be dead than “like this.” Lorrie’s parents did not know that we were together. And would not find out until fall of 2009.

During the time between 2003 and 2009 I “lived” in the bedroom, I did not come out and not many people knew I was in there. I went to school and work and paid my portion of the bills. But when it came time for me to come home at night I snuck in. We knew that had her parents known they would try to take custody of the girls who we of course love and would do anything to protect. They ended up finding out about us on September 25 of 2009 and the court papers for custody were filed on October 4. It didn’t take them long. Since that time I have moved back in with my parents who still aren’t happy about our relationship and don’t want to see or hear much about it. We are currently living about a mile apart for a full year as of tomorrow and are waiting for this hell to be over. Through it all we have each other.

Her parents have said every hateful thing you can imagine, and I won’t even delve into their bigotry.

Anyway, it has been a wild nine years to say the least. Like a lot of other couples we are just waiting for that day to come when I can go home and things will be okay again. Through it all I have learned to take advantage of the little things in spending time together, some days that’s all we have. I will never give up on our family and what will be again.

This is of course the very abbreviated version of our story…we could write a novel. But at our darkest moments we have learned to hang on because for every bad day we have eventually had two or more good ones. Hang in there and no matter what always remember that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.

Remember, there are always options.
The Trevor Project: a 24-hour hotline for gay and questioning youth: 866-4-U-TREVOR (488-7386)
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (8255)

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After the panel fell, someone can be heard on the video saying, “I was waiting for something like that to happen.”

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“This is incredibly dangerous stuff,” wrote journalist Ryan Grim. “Trump cutting safety corners with stage building is the kind of thing somebody can genuinely be prosecuted for if someone dies, which is not uncommon if you slap it together like this. This equipment is deadly when falling from those heights.”

“Literally a miracle no one was hurt here,” noted journalist Philip Lewis.

“In all seriousness, that actually looks really dangerous for the performers. It’s scary how unsafe this all seems,” observed journalist Pablo Manríquez.

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“If there was ever a metaphor for how historians will look back at Trump’s presidency at this moment in time, it’s this,” wrote health care consultant and National Organization for Women vice president Melanie D’Arrigo.

“The Freedom 250 rehearsal stage falling apart is the perfect analogy for the Trump administration,” The Lincoln Project commented.

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“Trump’s state fair is *literally* falling apart,” remarked liberal political commentator Harry Sisson.

One commenter added, “Those performers are incredibly lucky. That falling piece of debris looked heavy, sharp and came down at incredible speed.”

Trump’s Freedom 250 July 4th event is also besieged by a massive heat wave enveloping part of the country.

“U.S. Capitol Police have already restricted Thursday night’s rehearsal for ‘A Capitol Fourth Concert’ to essential personnel, posting on X that they came to the decision after consulting with the Capitol’s Office of the Attending Physician,” The New Republic reported.

“For safety reasons, the public will not be able to attend tonight’s rehearsal concert,” the Capitol Police’s post read. “Everyone is sorry for any inconvenience this may have caused. The National Weather Service is forecasting an extreme heat watch with temperatures exceeding 100 degrees.”

 

 

 

 

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Ornstein said that President Donald Trump’s acting Attorney General, Todd Blanche, “is going to cut a deal with Maduro to have him falsely claim that Venezuela tilted the 2020 elections. In return, he and his wife are likely to be in the same prison as Ghislaine Maxwell.”

Maduro is Nicolás Maduro, the former president of Venezuela whom the U.S. Army’s Delta Force captured in January. He and his wife, currently imprisoned in Brooklyn, are expected to stand trial on numerous drug-trafficking charges.

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“I’m hearing this Maduro rumor also,” she wrote. “As soon as he was captured, I thought Trump would try this nonsense.”

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Also responding to Ornstein was investigative journalist Dave Troy, who wrote: “This is insane but totally plausible. We are living in a fact-free world now.”

 

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“Set your AC to 78 degrees, turn off lights/electronics you’re not using, and unplug what you can,” Mamdani asked. “Our City is doing its part too: maintaining the 78 degrees rule in our buildings, dimming/turning off our lights during peak electricity demand, asking private partners to do the same, and powering down non-essential equipment. A stable grid means the AC stays on, and lives are saved. Let’s ease demand — and get through the heat — together.”

That request did not go over well on the right.

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“In a first-world country, you could turn on the A/C….” wrote U.S. Senator Ted Cruz (R-TX), only to be met with a community note on the X social media platform, which read: “Ted Cruz’s own state has made the same request on numerous occasions.”

Emmy Award-winning WTTG anchor Jim Lokay also responded to Senator Cruz, writing: “Trump’s own Department of Energy website recommends setting the AC at a range of 75-78 degrees.”

Indeed, on its website, the Department of Energy says: “The Department of Energy (DOE) and ENERGY STAR recommend finding a comfortable indoor temperature during the day and increasing it by 7°F when no one is home. Start with an indoor temperature between 75-78°F during the day.”

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“You are the absolute LAST person to weigh in, Captain Cancun,” retired intelligence officer Travis Akers wrote.

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