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Why (Some) Straight People Think Gay People Think Straight People Hate Us

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The majority of people in America support same-sex marriage, support equal rights for the LGBT community, and even think it should be illegal for gay people to be fired because they’re gay. But, as you can imagine, there are pockets of people across the country who don’t support same-sex marriage, who don’t support equal rights for the LGBT community, and even think it should be legal for gay people to be fired because they’re gay. In short, these people are generally religious bigots and haters, and it’s because of their attitudes that gay people sometimes think straight people hate us.

To be clear — most of America isn’t bigoted. Most of America doesn’t hate gay people. And most gay people don’t think most straight people hate us. But here’s why the some do.

Enter a (presumably) straight woman named Dale O’Leary, author of several books, most recently, One Man, One Woman: A Catholics Guide to Defending Marriage, and The Gender Agenda: Redefining Equality. Dale O’Leary also is the author of last year’s op-ed, “Do Gay-Straight Alliances cause cancer?” (Her answer, in short, was “yes.”)

Dale O’Leary is also the author of an opinion piece that was published this month in Lifesite News and Crisis Magazine.

“Why Homosexuals Think they Are Hated” is a fact-less exploration of decades-old myths and religious perceptions about gay people, offered as modern-day advice and insight. O’Leary offers zero proof, zero links to studies, and zero supporting documentation whatsoever. In fact (a word that may be alien to O’Leary,) had she written “the moon is made of green cheese” she might have been more credible.

A few excerpts:

GLBT (gay lesbian, bisexual, and transgendered) activists are demanding that Catholics and those of other religions change 4,000-year-old teachings about marriage and sexual morality. When believers answer that they are not authorized to make such changes in what God has revealed, the GLBT  activists accuse them of “hate,” even going so far as to charge them with “hate crimes.”

It doesn’t matter how gently the words are spoken or how carefully the message is phrased, the GLBT activists only hear “hate.”

Well, actually, we hear hate when you tell us we are inferior, cannot access marriage because your God wouldn’t like that, and are mentally ill, child-raping deviates. Doesn’t that sound like hate to you? If we started a campaign saying all the things bigoted gay-hating straight people say about us, you would call it hate in a split second.

O’Leary continues:

Although there is no one cause for same-sex attraction (SSA), in many instances it can be linked to childhood gender identity disorder — the failure to identify strongly with one’s own same-sex parent or peers in the first two years of life. Some persons with SSA as children wanted to be other sex or pretended to be the other sex, while others simply felt ‘different’ from their same-sex parent and peers.

Very often the child’s relationship with the father was seriously deficient. Not having a positive, healthy relationship with one’s father affects the way a person deals with authority, rules, and rejection. Often persons with SSA were rejected by peers, who did understand their ‘different’ behavior. Every time the unhealed adult with SSA feels rejection, faces discipline, or is confronted with rules, he remembers the pain of his relationship with his father or peers. He transfers these feelings to those who oppose him and screams in pain “You hate me, you hate me.”

Um, no. “Same-sex attraction” is not a disease, any more than “opposite sex attraction” would be. And in case you hadn’t checked, it’s the 21st century. And homosexuality is determined at birth. Get over it.

“Very often the child’s relationship with the father was seriously deficient.” Bull. There are millions of homosexuals who wood call you a liar if you said that about them. How would you know, anyway?

“He transfers these feelings to those who oppose him and screams in pain ‘You hate me, you hate me’.”

Like I said, “you hate me” because you’re a religious bigot who has no understanding of homosexuality other than what you may have read in the 1960’s. And in the 1960’s, the U.S. population was 180 million. It’s 311 million now. Three times the number of people have 4-year higher education degrees. Americans live about eight years longer. Divorce is up 50%. The rate of measles infection has drooped 99%. And we put men on the moon.

Welcome.

The only real solution in these cases is for persons with SSA to forgive their fathers and to be reconciled with their father God. Until that happens we cannot take their anger personally. We must speak clearly about the need for healing and repentance — but remember that the sexual sin is the fruit of a developmental disorder and often the first sin that must be repented of is the sin of resentment.

I had an opportunity to see this work with a woman who had been involved in lesbian activity. While the healing process was long and difficult, it began when she forgave her parents. From that moment on, she never returned to the same-sex activity.

I’m pretty sure I’ve forgive my parents for the few issues I had with them. They were (and are) pretty cool. And guess what? Still gay. Thanks for asking.

Persons with SSA are themselves filled with anger and ‘hate’ and they project that on anyone who opposes their demands. They assume we must be as angry as they are. We must constantly remind ourselves that under their anger and their hate, persons with SSA are wounded men and women. As small children they accepted the lie that they were different. They were unable to embrace their true identities as sons and daughters of God. In spite of their anger and false accusations, we must continue to speak the truth. Only by this means can we help them find their way out of the lies in which have been trapped. And most of all we need to pray for them.

No, we’re angry when ignorant and uneducated people try to pass on this religious psychobabble t the masses.

Fortunately, they see right through you, Dale.

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