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Valentine’s Day Marriage Equality Wedding In Manhattan

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On Valentine’s Day, Monday, February 14th, Marriage Equality New York, GetEQUAL NY, the Metropolitan Community Church (MCCNY), Queer Rising, and many fellow New Yorkers will convene at the Manhattan Marriage Bureau, near City Hall in lower Manhattan, and stand beside a devoted couple, Rob Lassegue and Manuel Reyes, as they attempt to join the more than 1.2 million couples who have been joined in marriage there since 1930.

Justin Elzie talked with the couple Saturday afternoon and asked them to share why they decided to try get a marriage license here in New York City, and about the symbolic, spiritual wedding ceremony that will take place downtown on Monday morning.

Justin: So what is going to happen this Monday, guys?

Rob: Well, we are going to go into the marriage bureau here in New York City and apply for a marriage license, which sadly enough we expect to be denied. If we are denied, then we will go outside the marriage bureau and have a symbolic spiritual marriage ceremony performed out front by Reverend Pat with the Metropolitan Community Church here in New York City.

We will have a symbolic spiritual marriage ceremony because civil marriage is not available to us here in New York City. Civil marriage is what Marriage Equality New York (MENY) and other LGBT organizations are pushing for.

Justin: What made you guys decide to be the couple to get married Monday?

Rob: I was not going to get married until civil marriage became the law, but we decided to go ahead and take the baby steps to get the spiritual marriage while we wait for civil marriage here in New York.

Justin: How long did it take for you guys to decide?

Rob: Six text messages.

(Laughter)

Justin: But obviously you’ve discussed this before. How long ago?

Manuel: We discussed it back about a year and half ago.

Justin: Who proposed to whom?

Rob: I asked Manuel.

Justin: Did he say yes right away?

Rob: Yes.

Manuel: No, I told him I had to think about it and then I said yes.

(Laughter)

Justin: How long have you two been together?

Rob/Manuel: Seven years this past November.

Justin: How did you guys meet?

Rob: We met at a club on Long Island.

Justin: Was it love at first site?

Manuel: No, I made him work for it.

(Laughter)

Justin: Where are you guys from?

Rob: Long Island, New York.

Manuel: Mexico.

Justin: Rob, tell us a little bit about your work on marriage equality?

Rob: I started in 1999 as a volunteer for Marriage Equality New York (MENY). In 2000, I started a Long Island chapter for MENY and in 2003 I joined the MENY state board. In 2001 I organized the first Wedding Expo for LGBT couples in the state of New York, on Long Island.

Justin: Do you expect marriage equality to be passed in New York this year?

Rob: Having participated in the MENY Albany Marriage Lobbying day this past week, I am very confident that the marriage bill will be coming up again soon. Governor Andrew Cuomo told Senator Tom Duane that he should bring up the bill this year again.

Justin: Do you think there will be more votes this year?

Rob: I am thinking that from what we saw at the Albany Marriage Equality Lobbying day that due to the lobbying, I think that there is room to build relationships that could translate into votes. We cannot do this without Republicans.

Justin: So what is MENY doing to reach out to Republicans?

Rob: MENY is working with Gregory Angelo from the Log Cabin Republicans.

Justin: If marriage equality is passed in New York will you be getting a real church wedding?

Rob: Church wedding no, but definitely a civil marriage ceremony.

Justin: Why is getting married so important to you guys?

Manuel: I want to have the same publically recognized relationship with my partner that other people have with theirs.

Rob: The reason I got involved in pushing for marriage equality is because I don’t think that anyone should be excluded from civil marriage rights. Plus, I am a huge advocate for the separation of church and state.

Justin: Then why are you getting a spiritual symbolic wedding?

Rob: Because the message we are sending is that a lot of mainline clergy support same-sex marriage, actually nationwide one third do, according to recent polls. Not to mention, some Jewish Synagogues and some mainline Protestant churches, i.e., Episcopalian, Methodist and others, support same-sex marriage, but the state denies the civil marriage license.

Justin: What is one thing that you guys want readers to know when they read this interview?

Rob: We wanted to do this to bring more awareness. A lot of people don’t realize that we don’t get over 1,138 federal rights that heterosexual couples get and 1,324 rights and benefits at the state level here in New York. So in doing this wedding, we wanted to bring about more awareness on this issue.

Justin: Manuel, because you are new resident from Mexico here in New York, do you think that this will give you more stability here in the U.S. when the state finally comes around to recognizing your marriage? Is that part of why you wanted to do this?

Manuel: Yes. I told my sister in Mexico, and she has sent us congratulations. She wanted to be here to support me. I feel very happy and sad at the same time because the state will not give us the equal rights that come with civil marriage.

Justin: Thank you guys for sitting down with me and sharing why you guys are getting married. Congratulations and I hope that others will be educated and inspired by your example!

You are cordially invited to witness the marriage of Rob Lassegue and Manuel Reyes this Valentine’s Day, Monday February 14th, 8:00 AM at the Marriage Bureau of Lower Manhattan, 141 Worth Street, New York, NY. Please show your support for marriage equality in New York by joining the rally.

Justin Elzie is an actor and writer living in New York. He recently wrote and published a memoir titled, “Playing By the Rules,” which details his life as the first Marine to be discharged under “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell,” and the first Marine to serve openly-gay in the Marines. Here writes about environmental and civil rights issues.

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The Bulwark’s Tim Miller, a political commentator who served as the communications director for the Jeb Bush 2016 presidential campaign, blasted Platner.

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“President Trump posted a captionless video of graduating kindergarteners on Truth Social on Monday, goading his supporters into verbally attacking little children simply for being Muslim,” The New Republic reported. “The clip is from Gateway STEM Academy, a majority-Black K-8 public charter school in St. Paul, Minnesota. It shows about 21 children in caps and gowns on stage singing a song together. Most of the girls are wearing hijabs.”

The original post of the video which Trump reposted reads: “Public school in St. Paul, Minnesota. Every girl is in a hijab … in kindergarten.”

Trump did not add any comments. TNR called the post “Islamophobic, weird, and creepy,” while noting that the comments section of Trump’s post was filled with calls “by racist, xenophobic MAGA supporters” to “deport the children and ban hijabs.”

TNR also noted that it “should come as no surprise that Trump isn’t above attacking children who just learned how to read, but this post is still particularly discomforting—and will certainly contribute to the already potent level of anti-Muslim sentiment in the U.S. and in Minnesota.”

Critics blasted Trump.

“There is something deeply unsettling about the president of the United States—the most powerful person in the world—going after kindergarten schoolchildren in Minnesota because they wore hijabs, as Trump has done this morning on his website,” The Bulwark’s Sam Stein wrote.

One social media commentator wrote, “Trump posted an unblurred video of more than a dozen Muslim kindergartners to Truth Social, exposing the children’s faces while targeting them for their religion.”

Another added, “Trump is a bigot. The president took to Truth Social to attack kindergarteners in hijabs. These are little kids. The president isn’t just a bigot, he’s also a coward.”

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U.S. Rep. Nancy Mace (R-SC) at the time commented, “If you are in a public school in America, you should be speaking english.”

 

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According to The Guardian, on July 4, U.S. District Judge Lewis Kaplan ordered Trump to release the $5.8 million judgment, which is in escrow, to Carroll by this coming Tuesday — or explain why he would not do so.

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“The case is separate from Trump’s appeal of a Manhattan civil jury’s 2024 award of $83.3m to Carroll for defamation,” The Guardian explains. “But her lawyers have suggested a legal scenario in which the president might seek to conjoin the cases and further delay payment of both.”

Carroll’s attorney Roberta Kaplan (no relation to the judge) wrote, “We can only assume that defendant is seeking … to buy time so he can try to concoct some new basis to put off paying plaintiff presumably in connection with his forthcoming petition and motion for a rehearing.”

Trump’s former attorney, Justin Smith, in one of his final acts, wrote to the Supreme Court suggesting that his client would be appealing the $83.3 million civil judgment.

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The president has also made clear he is no fan of Judge Kaplan, after the jurist made several rulings that “angered” Trump.

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