Op-Ed: A Gay Soldier’s Husband. The New York Times, ever changing, takes Op-Ed one step further and invokes video to tell this moving story of a gay man and his husband of fifteen years, who is serving his country as a soldier in Iraq. Highlights the trials of balancing the desire to build a life with someone and the desire to serve one’s country, in silence, knowing that “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” means one slip and your spouse’s career is over. Watch the video here.