Apparently, NOM’s Jennifer Roback Morse thinks love means never having to say you’re sorry. Roback Morse is the president of the National Organization For Marriage’s Ruth Institute, and recently made ugly, offensive, and mischaracterizing comments about the death of Tyler Clementi, the Ruters University teen who jumped off the George Washington Bridge in 2010.
The Clementi family and LGBT organizations have demanded an apology, to which Roback Morse is flatly refusing to provide.
To refresh your memory, Roback Morse recently told a group of students:
“Sometimes you hear about these things and you don’t hear the whole story in the media. That kid Tyler Clementi who killed himself, who threw himself off the George Washington Bridge? Do you know this story? Okay, then I’m not going to tell it. There was a much older man in the picture. There’s usually more to the story, right? And so I think friendship is what you have to offer. There are a lot of situations where people are doing something sexual that’s probably not the best thing for them and that would be better if they had somebody who would be friends with them without coming onto them or without judging them and that kind of stuff.”
But now the National Organization For Marriage leader is claiming her comments were mischaracterized, and “in a spirit of love” she would like to meet with the Clementi family:
“The media and activists groups are mischaracterizing my remarks, in which I urged students to befriend gay students, and also urged them all to adhere to the traditional standards of sexual morality,” Roback Morse says via a statement on NOM’s website:
“I believe that engaging in uncommitted sex hurts people of both genders and all sexual orientations. I would be happy to meet with Tyler Clementi’s mom and dad to try to move forward and go beyond the highly charged rhetoric that doesn’t help anyone. I don’t think the Clementis know me or what I believe or think or said. Reaching out across lines of moral difference in a spirit of love is my mission. In the meantime, I would invite anyone to come to the Ruth Institute website and listen to the entire podcast for themselves.”
Roback Morse may think people don’t know her or what she believes, so let’s remind folks, via GLAAD’s Commentator Accountability Project, which notes Roback Morse:
– Says that “the parallels” between Nazi Germany and contemporary America “are really quite chilling” and what happened in Nazi Germany “is happening to us.” (0:18-0:35)
– Claims that if marriage equality becomes legal, “Fathers will be marginalized. They will be considered non-essential.”
– Despite polls that prove otherwise, says Catholics don’t really “accept the category of gayness.” (0:38-0:45)
– Says being gay is a “completely shameless activity.” (0:20-0:27)
– Has called marriage equality for same-sex couples “a hostile takeover of the whole civil society” (9:35-9:44)
– Says the gay rights movement is “anti-human” and that “the job that religion does in most people’s lives, they are filling it up with Earth worship” (1:47-2:14)
– Has referred to same-sex marriage advocates as “enemies of the human body”
– Has made clumsy historical comparisons, positioning children of gay couples as victims of a “gross injustice”: “When slavery was abolished, all slaves became free men and women. When women obtained the right to vote, the discrimination ended with the very next election. But for children of same sex marriage, the situation will be different. When we come to our senses 30 years from now and realize that we have perpetrated a grotesque injustice, not a single child born fatherless or motherless within a same sex marriage will get his missing parent back. Only prevention will protect children’s rights. The thin disguise of marriage equality will not mislead anyone, nor will it atone for the wrong this day done”
– Said that prior to Prop 8, she was the “typical, clueless Anglo-Catholic Californian thinking that Mexicans were all busboys or gardeners or whatever” (2nd clip, :57-1:08)
– Refers to gays as both people who “suffer from same-sex attraction” and “struggle with same-sex attraction” (51:14-51:20)
– Asks of marriage equality advocates: “Is there anything the advocates of same sex marriage are not willing to do, any value they are unwilling to destry [sic], in order to get their way?”
– Says marriage equality advocates are “at war with Mother Nature.”
– Voices belief that homosexuality is “intrinsically disordered behavior”; advises gays to be celibate; compares homosexuality to “shacking up”
– Said of marriage equality: “There’s really isn’t any future in sodomy”
– Made a Thanksgiving video with little purpose beyond attacking gay resident advisors on college campus
– Used a photo of priests saluting Nazis to suggest that future Christians who are supportive of/ quiet about marriage equality (which she calls “a pagan ideology) will feel a similar shame
– Her organization says gays are “deeply wounded spiritually”; prays for “conversion”
Love may mean never having to ay you’re sorry, but ignorance and hate certainly require it.
Hat tip: Jeremy Hooper at Good As You
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